Orgasm is the highpoint of sexual pleasure. It’s what you feel when sexual arousal reaches its maximum.

During orgasm, the muscles of your genitals contract involuntarily. The orgasm starts in the region of the vulva and vagina in girls and the penis in guys. The feeling can then spread to the rest of your body.

Not all orgasms are the same: they vary from one person to another and one sex act to another. Furthermore, they rarely happen at exactly the same time for both partners.

The 4 phases of orgasm

Excitement – This is the phase of sexual stimulation: kissing and stroking lead to an erection for the guy and vaginal lubrication for the girl.👄 💦 👷🏾

Plateau – This is when the highest level of sexual arousal is reached and maintained for a short time (variable duration).

Orgasm – This is a very fast, powerful rise in sexual pleasure, which is expressed by ejaculation for the guy and vaginal contractions for the girl. 🌧️ 🚀 ☄️

Resolution – Sexual arousal decreases and the body returns to a relaxed, resting state.  🛬

Differences between guys and girls

It’s not exactly breaking news that guys and girls are different, and their genitals are too. In general, a girl needs a bit more time to reach orgasm, since her level of sexual arousal increases gradually with sexual touching. A guy, on the other hand, can have an erection and an orgasm (ejaculation) very fast. And oh yes, did you know that girls can have several orgasms in a row?

It’s important to remember these differences when you’re getting it on with your partner so that both of you can have an enjoyable, satisfying experience. The important thing is for you to feel good about your sexuality and to make sure your partner does too.

No orgasm? No panic!

Sex without an orgasm doesn’t mean that it was boring or unsatisfying. You don’t necessarily have an orgasm every time. There are several reasons why you may not have an orgasm: insufficient arousal, overly short or no foreplay, clitoris and other erogenous zones not stimulated enough, something on your mind, worries about not being good enough, or a need to discover your preferences and get to know your body better. These things happen!