Sexual pleasure and erogenous zones
When it comes to sexual pleasure and erogenous zones, everyone has their own preferences, and pleasure differs from one person to the next. We explore the topic in greater detail here!
To remember
👉 Sexual pleasure goes far beyond penetration.
👉 Erogenous zones are the parts of the body that are sensitive to sexual pleasure.
👉 Sexual pleasure is not limited to genitals: test, discover, explore!
Beyond penetration… there is sexual pleasure and erogenous zones
The main goal of sexuality is to feel pleasure, while spending some time enjoyably with a person we’re attracted to. Sexual pleasure goes way beyond penetration and orgasm (the peak of sexual pleasure): it includes kissing, stroking, exploring your partner’s body, or mutual masturbation, for example.
Your definition of satisfactory sexual activity probably isn’t the same as your partner’s.
A recipe to learn
Everyone has their secret recipe and their magical ingredients for enjoyable sexual activity. Talk about it with your partner:
What turns you on?
What don’t you like so much?
Sexual pleasure isn’t just physical: many things affect desire and sexual pleasure, such as stress, fatigue, moods, or the emotions you feel toward your partner.
Erogenous zones
The erogenous zones are the body parts that are most sensitive to sexual pleasure, and they play an important role. The skin is the body’s largest organ, and it’s a wonderful erogenous zone, very sensitive to touch and different sensations.
For example, you might feel sexually aroused if your partner lightly strokes your skin, tickles you, massages you, or kisses you. As you can see, sexual pleasure isn’t restricted to the genitalia! Every kind of touching and every part of your body can give you pleasure and might even lead to orgasm!
You can explore your erogenous zones to get to know them better and identify the ones that give you the most pleasure. That way, you’ll get more comfortable with your body and your sexuality and you’ll be able to guide your partner to your favourite erogenous zones.
What are, generally, the erogenous zones?
neck
ears
mouth (lips and tongue)
nipples
penis
head of the penis
prostate
anus
breasts (especially the nipples)
vulva
vagina
clitoris
G-spot
Does foreplay happen before every sex act?
"Foreplay" formerly referred to behaviors that preceded or "prepared" for penetration, as if it were the central, necessary, obligatory element or the ultimate goal. As if a sexual relationship is penetration or must lead to it.
But the expression "foreplay" fails to highlight the diversity of sexual behaviors and to accurately reflect what a sexual relationship can be.
In fact, a sexual relationship can be composed of all sorts of sexual behaviors. It can include penetration, but it can also not include it!
A sexual relationship can be oral sex (giving pleasure to our partner with our mouth), anal sex (stimulating the anus), caresses, kisses, masturbation (touching our genitals)... In short, it can be anything we desire. There are all sorts of ways to experience sexual relationships.
However, it's true that before penetration, if one desires to have one, it's a good idea to go at your own pace, listen to your body, and prepare it well, so that it is comfortable and pleasurable. That is, to ensure that you feel comfortable, as relaxed as possible, and sexually aroused.
