The most important thing, of course, is the consent of both partners: everyone has to agree to perform and receive oral sex. It's important to feel like it and to be tempted.

Sucking a penis, or letting someone take our sex in their mouth, can be part of the sexual behaviors you and your partner do during a sexual relationship, along with other sexual behaviors, but can be the only thing we do, and the sexual relationship itself too. Porn films often make people believe that fellatio is a “preliminary” before penetration: this isn't necessarily true. It can be before, during, after, just about anything you like! And, of course, it doesn't have to be either. Just listen to yourself.

How to suck well?

There's no set way of achieving a successful blow job: some people like it fast and intense, others softer and slower. The movements, the speed, the pressure you like, it all depends on each person. Sometimes we like it when it's accompanied by the hand, sometimes not: as you'll have understood, the key to good sucking is to listen to your partner, ask for his preferences, try things out and let yourself be guided.

Remember that it's normal not to know what to do or how to do it. It depends on each partner, and no one knows what to do the first time.

Just go for it and give it a try.

I want to give oral sex: how does it work?

We can't say it enough, but you've got to be down to do it - not to please, not because you think you MUST, not because everyone else is doing it (the biggest lie ever, by the way). Listen to your sensations, to what you're comfortable with and what you're not, and therefore to your limits, as well as those of your partner.

I'm going to have oral sex: how does it work?

We often hear that all guys love blow jobs, without exception. That's just not true. So the first question to ask yourself is: do you want to? Do you want it? Are you comfortable with it? You don't have to. It's okay if you want to, but it's also perfectly okay if you don't feel like receiving oral sex from your partner, or if you need time to feel confident enough.

Similarly, if you really, really want to have oral sex but your partner doesn't, never force him or her. It's very important to listen to your partner's consent. Forcing something on a partner is sexual assault.

Should I swallow?

You and your partner need to talk it over to make sure everyone's okay. You shouldn't feel any pressure to do it, and you're never obliged to do anything. We may be tempted, but we may not like it, and either way, it's okay. Not everyone does it. It's important that you listen to yourself and feel listened to.

In any case, you should know that swallowing sperm after fellatio poses no risk of pregnancy, but does not exclude the risk of transmission of STIs.

In fact, sperm and pre-ejaculatory fluid (the fluid that comes out as soon as there's an erection) can carry STIs, which is why it's recommended to perform fellatio with a condom.

Can I catch diseases from fellatio?

Like any other sexual practice, fellatio involves the risk of catching STIs - the risk is greater if the person sucking has mouth sores.

That's why it's so important to practice fellatio with a condom, and to get tested regularly (you don't need your parents' permission if you're over 14).

We'll tell you all about STBBIs in detail here: https://www.teljeunes.com/en/youths/sexuality/stbbis