Beyond penetration… there is sexual pleasure and erogenous zones

The main goal of sexuality is to feel pleasure, while spending some time enjoyably with a person we’re attracted to. Sexual pleasure goes way beyond penetration and orgasm (the peak of sexual pleasure): it includes kissing, stroking, exploring your partner’s body, or mutual masturbation, for example.

Your definition of satisfactory sexual activity probably isn’t the same as your partner’s.

A recipe to learn

Everyone has their secret recipe and their magical ingredients for enjoyable sexual activity. Talk about it with your partner. What turns you on? What don’t you like so much? Sexual pleasure isn’t just physical: many things affect desire and sexual pleasure, such as stress, fatigue, moods, or the emotions you feel toward your partner.

Erogenous zones

The erogenous zones are the body parts that are most sensitive to sexual pleasure, and they play an important role. The skin is the body’s largest organ, and it’s a wonderful erogenous zone, very sensitive to touch and different sensations.

For example, you might feel sexually aroused if your partner lightly strokes your skin, tickles you, massages you, or kisses you. As you can see, sexual pleasure isn’t restricted to the genitalia! Every kind of touching and every part of your body can give you pleasure and might even lead to orgasm!

You can explore your erogenous zones to get to know them better and identify the ones that give you the most pleasure. That way, you’ll get more comfortable with your body and your sexuality and you’ll be able to guide your partner to your favourite erogenous zones.

The erogenous zones are often:

• neck
• ears 
• mouth (lips and tongue)
• nipples
• penis
• head of the penis
• prostate
• anus
• breasts (especially the nipples)
• vulva
• vagina
• clitoris
• G-spot

Now it’s up to you to discover your own!

Does foreplay happen before every sex act?

Foreplay isn’t obligatory every time you make love. Every person is different, and every sex act too. Stroking and sexy talk can help put you in the mood and also increase your desire and arousal! Not everyone is equally sensitive to stroking. Some parts of your body will stimulate you more than others. Depending on the situation, you might feel like having a quickie or want to take your time with your partner to make the excitement grow. You need to feel comfortable and be sure that you and your partner are on the same wavelength. If you feel that something’s not for you, talk about it.